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Thursday, April 27, 2017
About Love
Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work.
You can’t force someone to care about you.
You can’t force someone to be loyal.
You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.
Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without.
You got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be.
Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.
Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.
You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it you .
And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out.
TRUST ME.
Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you.
Some chapters just have to close without closure.
Straight up.
- Trent Shelton
Thursday, March 13, 2014
The story of a blind girl
There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind.
She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend.
He was always there for her.
She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend.
Her boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”
The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him.
Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying:
“Just take care of my eyes dear.”
This is how human brain changes when the status changed.
Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations.
Life Is A Gift
Today before you think of saying an unkind word–
think of someone who can’t speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food–
think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife–
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.
Today before you complain about life–
think of someone who went too early to heaven.
Before you complain about your children–
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.
Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep–
think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive–
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job–
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down–
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.
She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend.
He was always there for her.
She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend.
Her boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”
The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him.
Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying:
“Just take care of my eyes dear.”
This is how human brain changes when the status changed.
Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations.
Life Is A Gift
Today before you think of saying an unkind word–
think of someone who can’t speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food–
think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife–
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.
Today before you complain about life–
think of someone who went too early to heaven.
Before you complain about your children–
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.
Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep–
think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive–
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job–
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down–
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.
The Suitcase
A man died, when he realized it, he saw God coming closer with a suitcase in his hand.
- God said: Alright son its time to go.
- surprised the man responded: Now? So soon? I had a lot of plans...
- I'm sorry but its time to go.
- What do you have in that suitcase? the man asked.
- God answered: Your belongings.
- My belongings? you mean my things, my clothes, my money?
- God answered: Those things were not yours they belonged to the earth.
- Is it my memories? the man asked.
- God answered: those never belonged to you they belonged to Time
- Is it my talents?
-God answered: those were never yours they belonged to the circumstances.
- Is it my friends and family?
- God answered: I'm sorry they were never yours they belonged to the path.
- Is it my wife and son?
- God answered: They were never yours the belonged to your heart.
- Is it my body?
- God answered: that was never yours it belonged to the dust.
-Is it my soul?
God answered: No that is mine.
Full of fear, the man took the suitcase from god and opened it just to find out the suitcase was empty.
- With a tear coming down his cheek the man said: I never had anything???
- God answered: that is correct, every moment you lived were only yours. Life is just a moment. a moment that belongs to you. For this reason enjoy this time while you have it. Don't let anything that you think you own stop you from doing so.
- Live Now
- Live your life
- Don't forget to be happy, that is the only thing that matters.
- Material things and everything else that you fought for stay here.
- YOU CAN'T TAKE ANYTHING
Share this reflection with anyone you love or appreciate. Enjoy every second you live.
- God said: Alright son its time to go.
- surprised the man responded: Now? So soon? I had a lot of plans...
- I'm sorry but its time to go.
- What do you have in that suitcase? the man asked.
- God answered: Your belongings.
- My belongings? you mean my things, my clothes, my money?
- God answered: Those things were not yours they belonged to the earth.
- Is it my memories? the man asked.
- God answered: those never belonged to you they belonged to Time
- Is it my talents?
-God answered: those were never yours they belonged to the circumstances.
- Is it my friends and family?
- God answered: I'm sorry they were never yours they belonged to the path.
- Is it my wife and son?
- God answered: They were never yours the belonged to your heart.
- Is it my body?
- God answered: that was never yours it belonged to the dust.
-Is it my soul?
God answered: No that is mine.
Full of fear, the man took the suitcase from god and opened it just to find out the suitcase was empty.
- With a tear coming down his cheek the man said: I never had anything???
- God answered: that is correct, every moment you lived were only yours. Life is just a moment. a moment that belongs to you. For this reason enjoy this time while you have it. Don't let anything that you think you own stop you from doing so.
- Live Now
- Live your life
- Don't forget to be happy, that is the only thing that matters.
- Material things and everything else that you fought for stay here.
- YOU CAN'T TAKE ANYTHING
Share this reflection with anyone you love or appreciate. Enjoy every second you live.
Saturday, July 20, 2013
Coffee Savings
http://ph.she.yahoo.com/coffee-101--how-to-enjoy-great-savings-in-a-cup-133921836.html
Sunday, July 14, 2013
Talk 2: Get rid of idolatry (The Feast @PICC, Sunday July 14, 2013)
Full Tank Series (The Feast, Sunday July 14, 2013)
Talk 2: Get rid of idolatry
Deuteronomy 27:15
When you seek from another person something that only God can give
What is that something? All the things that makes us complete
2 types of Paradigm
1) Performance paradigm -
the way you relate to other people is the way you treat yourself
people with this paradigm postponed their happiness or trust or love.. they will wait until they reach something before they start loving themselves
ORIGIN: idolatry..i.e.looking for something from another person..like i will love you only if...
there is no such thing as earn my love or earn my trust..it has to be given away unconditionally
performance paradigm entails shaming
ex. a boy who picks up a choco bar in a store and then tantrums starts when his mom did not buy for him..what happens next is if his mom adopts a performance paradigm she will be conscious and then be ashamed of her son..then outburt follows..mom would get mad with her son..because her happiness or selfworth comes from her child or another person..i will love you only if???
the best discipline is to allow the person to face the consequences of his action
you have to stop idolatry in your heart and start connecting with God
only when you have peace in your heart
2) Prodigal paradigm
prodigal is reckless extravagance
reckless extravagance in love (the parable of the prodigal son?.. after his son returns from his prodigal lifestyle..to show his love for his son he celebrates a feast in extravagance)
the prodigal paradigm do not speak but listens - empathy
the best example is when a child has a failing grade and shows it to her parents..his parents would sit down with them and asks...my son how can i help you? is there something that worries you?..what happens next..the son would corrects himself (self correct)
the opposite - performance paradigm..a parent would shamed their son saying things that would hurt his feelings..eventually the son would rebel more to his parents..
whatever you do it will affect the people around you
and there is only one thing that can change a heart - an UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Talk 2: Get rid of idolatry
Deuteronomy 27:15
When you seek from another person something that only God can give
What is that something? All the things that makes us complete
2 types of Paradigm
1) Performance paradigm -
the way you relate to other people is the way you treat yourself
people with this paradigm postponed their happiness or trust or love.. they will wait until they reach something before they start loving themselves
ORIGIN: idolatry..i.e.looking for something from another person..like i will love you only if...
there is no such thing as earn my love or earn my trust..it has to be given away unconditionally
performance paradigm entails shaming
ex. a boy who picks up a choco bar in a store and then tantrums starts when his mom did not buy for him..what happens next is if his mom adopts a performance paradigm she will be conscious and then be ashamed of her son..then outburt follows..mom would get mad with her son..because her happiness or selfworth comes from her child or another person..i will love you only if???
the best discipline is to allow the person to face the consequences of his action
you have to stop idolatry in your heart and start connecting with God
only when you have peace in your heart
2) Prodigal paradigm
prodigal is reckless extravagance
reckless extravagance in love (the parable of the prodigal son?.. after his son returns from his prodigal lifestyle..to show his love for his son he celebrates a feast in extravagance)
the prodigal paradigm do not speak but listens - empathy
the best example is when a child has a failing grade and shows it to her parents..his parents would sit down with them and asks...my son how can i help you? is there something that worries you?..what happens next..the son would corrects himself (self correct)
the opposite - performance paradigm..a parent would shamed their son saying things that would hurt his feelings..eventually the son would rebel more to his parents..
whatever you do it will affect the people around you
and there is only one thing that can change a heart - an UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Love letter from an accountant
Jay a graduate of Accounting, wrote a letter to his Girl Friend Char
Love letter from an Accountant
In the Journal of my heart,
I have written a Journal Entry,
Debiting my love & crediting my affection,
Now partners,
I write this Narration
Your beauty is the Capital of our business,
And your eyes are Stock In Trade,
Now let us enter into a Transaction,
Without providing Depreciation
Your first love I have already indicated On the Ledger Folio column,
Any way, our relations are based on Double Entry System
Our love is Real & Tangible proposals, Which can be realized,
Interest on the same, Can be capitalized
Partner, you are like a Contra Entry,
You are on my Debit Side & Credit Side, Both at the same time,
And so my partner now ,let us Rectify,
All our errors & total the Trial Balance, Of our affairs & emotions,
Without maintaining any Suspense Account
And any difference in the Trial Balance,
And In the Balance Sheet of our life.
Our children will be Assets & Liabilities,
If they are boys, shall we call them Sundry Debtors?
If they are girls, shall we call them Sundry Creditors
But if we have a boy & a girl,
Our Balance Sheet will Tally automatically,
A balance Sheet
And the Auditor will certify thus
"THE ACCOUNT SHOWS A TRUE & FAIR VIEW OF LOVELY BUSINESS CONDUCTED DURING Smith & Linda’s life Account"
Your dying Accountant in love
Love letter from an Accountant
In the Journal of my heart,
I have written a Journal Entry,
Debiting my love & crediting my affection,
Now partners,
I write this Narration
Your beauty is the Capital of our business,
And your eyes are Stock In Trade,
Now let us enter into a Transaction,
Without providing Depreciation
Your first love I have already indicated On the Ledger Folio column,
Any way, our relations are based on Double Entry System
Our love is Real & Tangible proposals, Which can be realized,
Interest on the same, Can be capitalized
Partner, you are like a Contra Entry,
You are on my Debit Side & Credit Side, Both at the same time,
And so my partner now ,let us Rectify,
All our errors & total the Trial Balance, Of our affairs & emotions,
Without maintaining any Suspense Account
And any difference in the Trial Balance,
And In the Balance Sheet of our life.
Our children will be Assets & Liabilities,
If they are boys, shall we call them Sundry Debtors?
If they are girls, shall we call them Sundry Creditors
But if we have a boy & a girl,
Our Balance Sheet will Tally automatically,
A balance Sheet
And the Auditor will certify thus
"THE ACCOUNT SHOWS A TRUE & FAIR VIEW OF LOVELY BUSINESS CONDUCTED DURING Smith & Linda’s life Account"
Your dying Accountant in love
Tuesday, July 9, 2013
Sunday, July 7, 2013
The 5 Keys to Coping with Stress
By Jessica Cohen | June 1st, 2013 at 8:23 am
Yesterday the folks at Queendom.com released results of a study showing how happy people handle stressful situations. How do people who are genuinely happy cope with stressful times?
Okay, so you might be rolling your eyes right now, but bear with me. This, my friends, is fascinating.
Here’s why. Managing stress is not only important for our emotional health but it is vital for our physical health as well. During times of stress, any (or all) of the following may occur: increased blood pressure, increased heart rate, changes in breathing patterns, tense muscles, disrupted sleep patterns, weakened digestive system, and lower immune system resistance. The effects of stress can takes a serious toll on one’s health, so understanding resiliency and coping techniques might enable us to keep people not only happier, but physically healthier too.
So, why do happier people show more resilience in stressful times while others have more difficulty? The Queendom.com study looked at 1,434 people who are very happy with their life and found five common factors in coping with stress:
Techniques for Coping with Stress
Here are the five ways that happy people cope with stressful situations. Which one of these do you use?
Problem-Solving Technique
Happy people take active steps to discover the underlying cause of stress and find ways to either solve or improve their situation. They approach stress in a more systematic, practical way. (before sleeping, i tend to organize my thoughts and contemplate..i prioritize which should be tackled first..which is the most important..clear out your mind from any NEGATIVE thinking..always stay positive)
Positive Recognitive Structuring Technique
Happy people can look at a problem or source of stress from a different, more empowering angle. They find a silver lining to the issue or change the way they think about it. (the positive attitude, the positive thinking..trigger happy techniques - think of happy moments in the past that made you smile or happy or laugh..but stay positive and everything will be fine..eat your favorite food..food is the fastest way for your comfort)
Negotiation Technique
By compromising and negotiating, happy people can lessen their own aggravation levels. They are able to adjust their attitude or outlook in order to adapt to a stressful situation. (everything happens for a reason..i always mention the phrase "In Jesus name" or "Jesus save me" when I'm in a difficult situation and it never fails..compromise on issues but never compromise your principles..do what is right even if others were not looking)
Emotional Regulation Technique
Happy people recognize the need to calm themselves down before tackling a stressful situation. They look for a way to release excess energy in order to see the situation from a less emotional and more rational perspective. (I do confessional writing to calm myself - like talking to God by writing a letter e.g. Dear Father in heaven and then pouring out all what's inside in your mind.. Drinking teas and avoiding too much caffeine..less sugar also..eat healthy like buying assorted sliced fruits at the supermarket)
Distraction Technique
Along the lines of emotional regulation, some happy people distract themselves by socializing and enjoying themselves. This allows them to take their mind off of their stressful situation until they are emotionally ready to find a solution. (do the things that you really like (or love) such as watching a movie, eating your favorite comfort food, going out with your friends, play with your pets..remember always be happy..its your choice..and the universe will send you more happiness)
(source: http://www.babble.com/body-mind/the-5-keys-to-coping-with-stress/#next-slideshow)
Yesterday the folks at Queendom.com released results of a study showing how happy people handle stressful situations. How do people who are genuinely happy cope with stressful times?
Okay, so you might be rolling your eyes right now, but bear with me. This, my friends, is fascinating.
Here’s why. Managing stress is not only important for our emotional health but it is vital for our physical health as well. During times of stress, any (or all) of the following may occur: increased blood pressure, increased heart rate, changes in breathing patterns, tense muscles, disrupted sleep patterns, weakened digestive system, and lower immune system resistance. The effects of stress can takes a serious toll on one’s health, so understanding resiliency and coping techniques might enable us to keep people not only happier, but physically healthier too.
So, why do happier people show more resilience in stressful times while others have more difficulty? The Queendom.com study looked at 1,434 people who are very happy with their life and found five common factors in coping with stress:
Techniques for Coping with Stress
Here are the five ways that happy people cope with stressful situations. Which one of these do you use?
Problem-Solving Technique
Happy people take active steps to discover the underlying cause of stress and find ways to either solve or improve their situation. They approach stress in a more systematic, practical way. (before sleeping, i tend to organize my thoughts and contemplate..i prioritize which should be tackled first..which is the most important..clear out your mind from any NEGATIVE thinking..always stay positive)
Positive Recognitive Structuring Technique
Happy people can look at a problem or source of stress from a different, more empowering angle. They find a silver lining to the issue or change the way they think about it. (the positive attitude, the positive thinking..trigger happy techniques - think of happy moments in the past that made you smile or happy or laugh..but stay positive and everything will be fine..eat your favorite food..food is the fastest way for your comfort)
Negotiation Technique
By compromising and negotiating, happy people can lessen their own aggravation levels. They are able to adjust their attitude or outlook in order to adapt to a stressful situation. (everything happens for a reason..i always mention the phrase "In Jesus name" or "Jesus save me" when I'm in a difficult situation and it never fails..compromise on issues but never compromise your principles..do what is right even if others were not looking)
Emotional Regulation Technique
Happy people recognize the need to calm themselves down before tackling a stressful situation. They look for a way to release excess energy in order to see the situation from a less emotional and more rational perspective. (I do confessional writing to calm myself - like talking to God by writing a letter e.g. Dear Father in heaven and then pouring out all what's inside in your mind.. Drinking teas and avoiding too much caffeine..less sugar also..eat healthy like buying assorted sliced fruits at the supermarket)
Distraction Technique
Along the lines of emotional regulation, some happy people distract themselves by socializing and enjoying themselves. This allows them to take their mind off of their stressful situation until they are emotionally ready to find a solution. (do the things that you really like (or love) such as watching a movie, eating your favorite comfort food, going out with your friends, play with your pets..remember always be happy..its your choice..and the universe will send you more happiness)
(source: http://www.babble.com/body-mind/the-5-keys-to-coping-with-stress/#next-slideshow)
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