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Talk 2: Get rid of idolatry (The Feast @PICC, Sunday July 14, 2013)

Full Tank Series (The Feast, Sunday July 14, 2013)

Talk 2: Get rid of idolatry

Deuteronomy 27:15

When you seek from another person something that only God can give

What is that something? All the things that makes us complete

2 types of Paradigm

1) Performance paradigm -

the way you relate to other people is the way you treat yourself
people with this paradigm postponed their happiness or trust or love.. they will wait until they reach something before they start loving themselves

ORIGIN: idolatry..i.e.looking for something from another person..like i will love you only if...

there is no such thing as earn my love or earn my trust..it has to be given away unconditionally

performance paradigm entails shaming

ex. a boy who picks up a choco bar in a store and then tantrums starts when his mom did not buy for him..what happens next is if his mom adopts a performance paradigm she will be conscious and then be ashamed of her son..then outburt follows..mom would get mad with her son..because her happiness or selfworth comes from her child or another person..i will love you only if???

the best discipline is to allow the person to face the consequences of his action

you have to stop idolatry in your heart and start connecting with God

only when you have peace in your heart

2) Prodigal paradigm

prodigal is reckless extravagance

reckless extravagance in love (the parable of the prodigal son?.. after his son returns from his prodigal lifestyle..to show his love for his son he celebrates a feast in extravagance)

the prodigal paradigm do not speak but listens - empathy

the best example is when a child has a failing grade and shows it to her parents..his parents would sit down with them and asks...my son how can i help you? is there something that worries you?..what happens next..the son would corrects himself (self correct)

the opposite - performance paradigm..a parent would shamed their son saying things that would hurt his feelings..eventually the son would rebel more to his parents..

whatever you do it will affect the people around you

and there is only one thing that can change a heart - an UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Love letter from an accountant

Jay a graduate of Accounting, wrote a letter to his Girl Friend Char

Love letter from an Accountant

In the Journal of my heart,

I have written a Journal Entry,

Debiting my love & crediting my affection,

Now partners,

I write this Narration

Your beauty is the Capital of our business,

And your eyes are Stock In Trade,

Now let us enter into a Transaction,

Without providing Depreciation

Your first love I have already indicated On the Ledger Folio column,

Any way, our relations are based on Double Entry System

Our love is Real & Tangible proposals, Which can be realized,

Interest on the same, Can be capitalized

Partner, you are like a Contra Entry,

You are on my Debit Side & Credit Side, Both at the same time,

And so my partner now ,let us Rectify,

All our errors & total the Trial Balance, Of our affairs & emotions,

Without maintaining any Suspense Account

And any difference in the Trial Balance,

And In the Balance Sheet of our life.

Our children will be Assets & Liabilities,

If they are boys, shall we call them Sundry Debtors?

If they are girls, shall we call them Sundry Creditors

But if we have a boy & a girl,

Our Balance Sheet will Tally automatically,

A balance Sheet

And the Auditor will certify thus

"THE ACCOUNT SHOWS A TRUE & FAIR VIEW OF LOVELY BUSINESS CONDUCTED DURING Smith & Linda’s life Account"

Your dying Accountant in love

Ride the waves

You are God-look-a-like

Believe in yourself

The 5 Keys to Coping with Stress

By Jessica Cohen | June 1st, 2013 at 8:23 am   


Yesterday the folks at Queendom.com released results of a study showing how happy people handle stressful situations.  How do people who are genuinely happy cope with stressful times?

Okay, so you might be rolling your eyes right now, but bear with me.  This, my friends, is fascinating.

Here’s why.  Managing stress is not only important for our emotional health but it is vital for our physical health as well.  During times of stress, any (or all) of the following may occur: increased blood pressure, increased heart rate, changes in breathing patterns, tense muscles, disrupted sleep patterns,  weakened digestive system, and lower immune system resistance.   The effects of stress can takes a serious toll on one’s health, so understanding resiliency and coping techniques might enable us to keep people not only happier, but physically healthier too.

So, why do happier people show more resilience in stressful times while others have more difficulty?  The Queendom.com study looked at 1,434 people who are very happy with their life and found five common factors in coping with stress:


Techniques for Coping with Stress

Here are the five ways that happy people cope with stressful situations. Which one of these do you use?


Problem-Solving Technique
Happy people take active steps to discover the underlying cause of stress and find ways to either solve or improve their situation. They approach stress in a more systematic, practical way. (before sleeping, i tend to organize my thoughts and contemplate..i prioritize which should be tackled first..which is the most important..clear out your mind from any NEGATIVE thinking..always stay positive)


Positive Recognitive Structuring Technique

Happy people can look at a problem or source of stress from a different, more empowering angle.  They find a silver lining to the issue or change the way they think about it. (the positive attitude, the positive thinking..trigger happy techniques - think of happy moments in the past that made you smile or happy or laugh..but stay positive and everything will be fine..eat your favorite food..food is the fastest way for your comfort)


Negotiation Technique

By compromising and negotiating, happy people can lessen their own aggravation levels.  They are able to adjust their attitude or outlook in order to adapt to a stressful situation. (everything happens for a reason..i always mention the phrase "In Jesus name" or "Jesus save me" when I'm in a difficult situation and it never fails..compromise on issues but never compromise your principles..do what is right even if others were not looking)


Emotional Regulation Technique

Happy people recognize the need to calm themselves down before tackling a stressful situation.  They look for a way to release  excess energy in order to see the situation from a less emotional and more rational perspective. (I do confessional writing to calm myself - like talking to God by writing a letter e.g. Dear Father in heaven and then pouring out all what's inside in your mind.. Drinking teas and avoiding too much caffeine..less sugar also..eat healthy like buying assorted sliced fruits at the supermarket)


Distraction Technique

Along the lines of emotional regulation, some happy people distract themselves by socializing and enjoying themselves.  This allows them to take their mind off of their stressful situation until they are emotionally ready to find a solution. (do the things that you really like (or love) such as watching a movie, eating your favorite comfort food, going out with your friends, play with your pets..remember always be happy..its your choice..and the universe will send you more happiness)

(source: http://www.babble.com/body-mind/the-5-keys-to-coping-with-stress/#next-slideshow)

Top 10 photo fads of Filipinos

according to ANG PINAKA here is the top 10 famous photo fads
10. forced perspective - landmark

09. duck face - make sure you look good

08. jump shot - watch out for belly

07. look up - group shot

06. emo - looking down view

05. ootd - outlook of the day

04. food porn

03. throwback thursday - #tbt posting old pics beside your new photo

02. mirror shot

01. selfie

Respect

Full Tank, The Joy of Grace-Filled Relationships, Talk 101: Undo Curses

Today's talk at The Feast:
Empty love tank makes you
1. needy person
2. angry person

Relationship or rulership?

C-control
U-unforgiving
R-reactive
S-shaming
E-ego-driven

Control
Relationship is about trust..there is weak trust if there is a lot of control..coming from an empty love tank

Unforgiving
Ephesians 4:32
You cannot forget the things of the past

Reactive
Love is not provoked..
You have to let the person control himself
Shouting only works if there is fire
RULE: only shout in the house when there is fire

Shaming
Instead of correcting a behavior one would say there is something wrong with you..like baket di mo magaya ang kapatid mo? there is an intention to shame someone

Ego-driven
selfish

You cannot dominate another God-look-a-like person

we try to fix others because we've bought into a blatant lie that the other person's performance will solve our deepest needs

give up trying to fix the other person, your job is to LOVE them UNCONDITIONALLY

I like your thinking

A teacher asks her class, "If there are five birds sitting on a fence and you shoot one of them, how many will be left?" 

She calls on little Johnny.

"None, they all fly away with the first gunshot."

The teacher replies, "The correct answer is four, but I like your thinking." 

Then Little Johnny says, "I have a question for YOU. There are three women sitting on a bench having ice cream. One is delicately licking the sides of the triple scoop of ice cream. The second is gobbling down the top and sucking the cone. The third is biting off the top of the ice cream. Which one is married?"

The teacher, blushing a great deal, replies, "Well I suppose the one that's gobbled down the top and sucked the cone."

"The correct answer is the one with the wedding ring on... but I like your thinking."

The paradox of our time

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints; we spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.

These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer to quiet to kill.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships.

These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition. We write more, but learn less; we plan more, but accomplish less.

We've learned to rush, but not to wait; we have higher incomes, but lower morals; we have more food, but less appeasement; we build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication; we've become long on quantity, but short on quality.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we've split the atom, but not our prejudice.

We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor. We've conquered outer space, but not inner space; we've done larger things, but not better things.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life; we've added years to life, not life to years.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too seldom, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time; we have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

It is a time when there is much in the show room and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology has brought this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to make a difference, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember to say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember to say "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it!!

A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment, for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind."

~Dr. Bob Moorehead

Live and let live

Pay it forward 01

"Good morning," said the woman as she walked up to the man sitting on the ground.

The man slowly looked up.

This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life.

His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before.. "Leave me alone," he growled.

To his amazement, the woman continued standing. She was smiling - her even, white teeth displayed in dazzling rows.

"Are you hungry?" she asked.

"No," he answered sarcastically. "I've just come from dining with the president. Now go away."

The woman's smile became even broader. Suddenly the man felt a gentle hand under his arm.

"What are you doing, lady?" the man asked angrily. "I said to leave me alone."

Just then a policeman came up. "Is there any problem, ma'am?" he asked.

"No problem here, officer," the woman answered. "I'm just trying to get this man to his feet. Will you help me?"

The officer scratched his head. "That's old Jack. He's been a fixture around here for a couple of years. What do you want with him?"

"See that cafeteria over there?" she asked. "I'm going to get him something to eat and get him out of the cold for awhile."

"Are you crazy, lady?" the homeless man resisted. "I don't want to go in there!"

Then he felt strong hands grab his other arm and lift him up. "Let me go, officer. I didn't do anything."

"This is a good deal for you, Jack," the officer answered. "Don't blow it."

Finally, and with some difficulty, the woman and the police officer got Jack into the cafeteria and sat him at a table in a remote corner. It was the middle of the morning, so most of the breakfast crowd had already left and the lunch bunch had not yet arrived.

The manager strode across the cafeteria and stood by his table. "What's going on here, officer?" he asked. "What is all this? Is this man in trouble?"

"This lady brought this man in here to be fed," the policeman answered.

"Not in here!" the manager replied angrily. "Having a person like that here is bad for business."

Old Jack smiled a toothless grin. "See, lady. I told you so. Now if you'll let me go. I didn't want to come here in the first place."

The woman turned to the cafeteria manager and smiled.

"Sir, are you familiar with Eddy and Associates, the banking firm down the street?"

"Of course I am," the manager answered impatiently. "They hold their weekly meetings in one of my banquet rooms."

"And do you make a goodly amount of money providing food at these weekly meetings?"

"What business is that of yours?"

"I, sir, am Penelope Eddy, president and CEO of the company."

"Oh."

The woman smiled again. "I thought that might make a difference." She glanced at the cop who was busy stifling a giggle. "Would you like to join us in a cup of coffee and a meal, officer?"

"No thanks, ma'am," the officer replied. "I'm on duty."

"Then, perhaps, a cup of coffee to go?"

"Yes, ma'am. That would be very nice."

The cafeteria manager turned on his heel, "I'll get your coffee for you right away, officer."

The officer watched him walk away. "You certainly put him in his place," he said.

"That was not my intent. Believe it or not, I have a reason for all this."

She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently. "Jack, do you remember me?"

Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. "I think so - I mean you do look familiar."

"I'm a little older perhaps," she said. "Maybe I've even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry."

"Ma'am?" the officer said questioningly. He couldn't believe that such a magnificently turned out woman could ever have been hungry.

"I was just out of college," the woman began. "I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn't find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat."

Jack lit up with a smile. "Now I remember," he said. "I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy."

"I know," the woman continued. "Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble. Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right."

"So you started your own business?" Old Jack said.

"I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business that, with the help of God, prospered."

She opened her purse and pulled out a business card. "When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons. He's the personnel director of my company. I'll go talk to him now and I'm certain he'll find something for you to do around the office."

She smiled. "I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet. If you ever need anything, my door is always opened to you."

There were tears in the old man's eyes. "How can I ever thank you?" he said.

"Don't thank me," the woman answered. "To God goes the glory. Thank Jesus... He led me to you."

Outside the cafeteria, the officer and the woman paused at the entrance before going their separate ways.

"Thank you for all your help, officer," she said.

"On the contrary, Ms. Eddy," he answered. "Thank you. I saw a miracle today, something that I will never forget. And thank you for the coffee."